Fresh Beginnings

School's Out!
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The end of the school year can be heard around campus, muffled by high-school giggles and stern teachers’ voices, insisting that there is still work to be done.

The indicators are everywhere. The seniors aren’t wearing uniforms. Signs line the patch of grass in front of the guard shack announcing concerts, awards ceremonies, uniform returns. The way you hear “only __ left” as you wonder outside toward your car and recall the last weeks of your own high school experience—12 years ago now.

We’ve made it through almost an entire school year here on campus. I have yet to find a routine cleaning our tiny apartment and we’re on the brink of moving to a new one (adding an extra bedroom and bathroom, and a parking space that isn’t a fifth of a mile from our home). I’m both ecstatic about moving and dreading the change of routine that comes with summer along with the change of location; with two little ones, change is a four-letter word. Acclimation does not come easily.

But I look and hope for another fresh start. Another chance to start out cleaner and neater and healthier. Has my life been anything but fresh starts for the last 8 years?  Have I taken advantage of any of them?

I pray and beg and exercise for 10 minutes and look at the rings on my finger that have led me to join with a man and move with him. This will be the fifth home we’ve had in eight years of marriage. Five!

Seniors sing of new beginnings and jeans and dorm rooms. I consider a bed that is truly our own—that I don’t have to share with toddlers unless I want to—and a bathroom that my child has no reason to use or be in. Of cleansing and simplicity and painted walls and butterflies and dinosaurs.

I say amen to the fact that “Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning” (Lamentations 3:33, NLT). Every morning, a fresh start. A new breath. Whether you’re 18 or 30, 8 or 98, they are always new and waiting.

It’s about time I grasped ahold of that fact.

Just Write.

Libbie is on the couch, a barely touched graham cracker in her hand. For two nights in a row, she’s spiked a fever right at bedtime. The first night she slept in her bed, our bed, the loveseat. Last night with me in the big bed. Mr. V assigned to the couch.

David slept for 12 hours, but I woke many times to re-cover my sickie, push back her sweaty hair.

Sweat-soaked in yellow footed pajamas, she asked to be rocked at 10 pm last night. Rocked. My almost-three-year-old. I rocked.

David woke this morning to suck greedily on a breast that can’t seem to stop getting clogged ducts. Pain. The nurse at the doctor thinks I want permission to stop nursing, but I just want relief. I want to know why I appear to be the only woman in the world who has no problems breastfeeding at first but lots of problems starting around eight months.

His teeth are little razorblades; and while I am grateful he hasn’t bit the breast that feeds him, he has taken a good gnaw at my chin. Four little teeth with two more coming in. He looks like a fourth-grader with the growing-in two front teeth of different lengths.

I have piles and piles and piles of boxes and I am too embarrassed about it to call maintenance to come fix our main AC unit, which just growls instead of blows. This morning it’s cool and not bothersome, but our 80-degree days are leaving me sweaty. I still have one more load at the house, but that would involve emptying out the car. And when should I do that, with a baby and a sick little one?

This week is the finish of moving, and a big quick editing job, and unpacking that probably won’t happen.

But I still need to write. So here it is.

{Oh hey! I have two guest posts up today: 10 Burning Questions I Have for PBS/Sprout at Mama Loves Her Shows and Fruity Squash Puree at Once a Month Mom.}
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Still Held

I let myself look at the pictures one last time.

I don’t even feel the tears until I see the smiling faces of our 24-year-old selves, grinning with satisfaction. “I really feel like we’re not being wasteful,” I said. “We got what we could afford and we’ll use all the space.”

Eleven-hundred and seventy square feet that we felt like we owned, even if after a year Mr. V calculated we only really “owned” the tiny half bathroom.

I’ve learned a lot about ownership over the past months.

Two years ago – maybe even two months ago – I would have told you that foreclosure was not an option for us. Our credit scores have already been super high. We’ve always tried to make smart financial choices.

We foreclose today.

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When I wrote this or this, I would have never imagined the road would end in foreclosure. Never.

But lately I’ve faced the fact that foreclosure is not the worst thing that could happen to us.

I praise, in the midst of the pain.

We were provided this apartment and new home, which will give us the ability to pay cash for the next seven years.

We have clothes and food and the ability to send our children to school.

We have a Savior who knows our every need and is providing. 

Through all the pain and trial, I believe that as much as I did two years ago. He is enough.

I started this journey with the belief that God would work it all out for His good and it would be a way I could minister to others. It may not be how I thought, but it still is. He is the I AM. The End.

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The End of Menu Plan Monday?

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Could it be the end of Menu Plan Mondays at Vanderbilt Wife? Truthfully … I’m not sure.

So here’s what’s happening in our life that’s taking precedence over blogging.

Mr. V and I have hoped and prayed since we found out he got his current job that we would be able to live on campus at the school where he teaches. It is a private school with both boarding and local students, so there are dorms and they have dorm parents.

April and May passed this year, and for the second year we realized we would not be moving onto campus for the fall. We sucked it up and I made plans to paint some of our current rental house, do whatever was needed to make it feel a little more ours.

Two weeks ago, we got word that there “might” be a place for us on campus. It was last Wednesday before we had the affirmation that yes, we would be able to move on for this school year. The school year starts tomorrow, August 22. We were able to start moving in Saturday the 20th.

So, yeah.

Part of the deal of living on-campus and performing dorm parent duties is that our whole family can eat in the dining hall, three meals a day, every day. It blows my mind that I don’t ever have to cook if I don’t want to.

I have a difficult time picturing me being able to get my kids and myself dressed and to the dining hall in time for breakfast. But as for lunch and dinner, I think we’ll eat there most of the time.

It is just such a weird concept to think about not cooking that I can’t quite grasp it. I imagine that I will cook one or two dinners at home a week, but I don’t know. We are simply going to roll with the punches and see how it goes.

I’m thinking that there won’t be a Menu Plan Monday here anymore. And that’s OK. I feel it was mostly for me to keep up with what I needed to cook that week, although it did drive some traffic here.

With the expected lack of cooking, I plan to rev up my baking some. I’ve promised Mr. V that his night of dorm duty each week I will deliver some treat for the students. So perhaps I will feature a weekly “treat” here on VW. I adore baking, but the problem has always been that I like baking more than I should be eating baked goods. It will be great to have teenaged boys I can feed!

We are so excited about this new phase in our life and I can’t wait to share what I can with you.

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Welcome, 2011.

It wears me out to think about the last two years.

If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you know our story. If not, you can read about here or here or here.

I’m not sure what I would have done if two years ago I knew we would be living in limbo for such a long time. Struggling financially, worrying over a house that won’t sell. Still living so very far from any family.

It was not what I had planned.

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But in 2010, I moved to Chattanooga. I became a stay-at-home-mom. We found an amazing church home that is thriving and where God is moving. We conceived and brought another child into the world.

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If I let myself think about the things that weigh me down, I panic. Every day I have to choose to focus on the blessings of being where I am, right now. Even if that place is Limbo, Tennessee; population: family of 4.

I can’t help but think that Jesus lived here, too (well, not Tennessee). What must have passed through His mind as He waited those 30 years for His ministry to begin? Was He anxious? (Doubtful.) Did He wonder if the right time would ever come?

I am glad He understands.

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One Year Later, Still Waiting

It’s been a year this week since I wrote the post revealing our move to Chattanooga

After seven long months of job searching for Mr. V, I cannot tell you how relieved I was by that news.

I didn’t know we wouldn’t sell our house. That I wouldn’t move to Chattanooga until January. That I would miss my co-workers but not my job. That the intense peace I had during Mr. V’s job search would dissipate along with my faith that I would ever get to move.

There are many things I wish I could say are all better, all wrapped up. But they aren’t. We’re still, a year later, living somewhere in the in-between. Living in the wait.

Waiting

Many, many days I tell God that I promise I’ve learned my lesson and could He just make it all better now?

Which is probably all the more reason to still be sitting here, hanging out, waiting.

Thank you for hanging in there with me, hoping and praying, and learning to trust a little more each day.

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Where Are You From?

As a transport to a new city, the question I get asked constantly is “Where are you from?”

I hate, despise, and detest all forms of the question. Because really, how much do they TRULY want to know?

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Short answer: I lived in Nashville for 5 1/2 years.

Long answer (deep breath):

Well, I was born in Dayton, Ohio. I lived in Indiana. I grew up in Richmond, Virginia–no, not Richmond, Indiana, or Kentucky, or anywhere else. Then my husband and I moved to Nashville after college.

Mr. V was born in Pennsylvania, grew up in South Carolina, then his parents moved back to PA but he never really lived there.

Them: “Oh, so your parents are in Virginia and his are in Pennsylvania?”

Me: Oh, no. My parents moved to Pennsylvania about four years ago, and they lived really near my in-laws, but now my in-laws live in North Carolina. And my dad has no idea what’s going on with his job, so only God knows where they’ll live in a year.

Oh, and we go to Dayton for Thanksgiving. All of my grandparents and many of my other relatives live there.

Them: “Um, OK. See ya later!!” (rushes off hurriedly)

It’s not THAT confusing, right?

Heh. Some days I wish we had grown up in the same place, all of our families still lived there, and this was an easy situation to explain. But we’re Modern America, and I’d never trade in any of my life experience, no matter how crazy it is. I choose to believe it makes me well-rounded.

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Does anyone else dread being asked this question?

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We Made It!

The last few days have been grueling. Libbie has no clue what’s going on. But we’re in our Chattanooga house and trying to get unpacked some before leaving for PA on Sunday. Oh my.

Won’t have consistent Internet until tomorrow afternoon, so I’ll catch up later! Just wanted to let you know us and our stuff got here OK.

And if any companies would like me to review a crib … Libbie’s got damaged on the way here and is being held together with duct tape. :( Seriously, companies, e-mail me!

Home is Where …?

I drove back to Nashville from Chattanooga for the last time today.

Well, not the REAL last time, of course. In fact, in less than a week I’m coming back to fly out of BNA and visit my parents. And then a few weeks later, I’ll be back for Blissdom!

But we’re moving on Tuesday. So this was the last time I’d make the drive back to our home here and have it feel like home. In all honestly, I’m still a little confused on which is home. (Mr. V is as well, and he’s been there for five months!)

I drove past what will be “my” grocery store. How will I learn the aisles? What is their coupon policy? Where is the Publix??

I wondered if I would make friends, how on earth I would work (on freelance) this week while moving and unpacking, and about all the friendships in Nashville that are about to receive a big crack down the middle–a 120-mile gap.

But then, I drove down 27 toward 24 and marveled at the gorgeous view, the lovely mountains frosted with snow from this weekend’s dusting. I get to see this every day? I get to be at home with my daughter? I get to live in this amazing city, with the huge aquarium, an incredible downtown, and be a mere 2 hours each from Nashville and Atlanta?

I feel blessed. I’ve always been a girl who prefers the mountains over the beach. I have many happy memories of hiking in the Blue Ridge Mountains with my parents and grandparents; staying in cabins with my dad’s side of the family; eating apples that were better than any I’d tasted, fresh from the trees; caving in Indiana with our church when I was a young kid.

I don’t know whether I’m more excited or scared. It will certainly be an adjustment. But I am so happy to say that it’s finally happening!

I’ve made some adjustments to my About Me page, if you’re new to the site and have no idea what I’m talking about or want to get to know me a little better. 


No, our house has not sold yet. I don’t want to talk about it. But I do covet your prayers. Please help me convince God it would be GREAT if someone could just swoop in and make us an offer. 

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Choo-Choo

I want to write. I really do.

But today has been a messy mess, I need to work, and I of course need to make sure I watch The Big Bang Theory. (Because they don’t put it online. The nerve!)

I put my resignation in at work today (for Dec. 31) and it’s kind of freaked me out royally. Because if on December 31st I don’t have another job or we still own this house, I don’t know what we will do.

And in spite of that ordeal, I feel joyful. Joyful at having a sweet, sort-of-walking daughter. Joyful at fall leaves, good books, and leftover Chinese food.

I am not controlled by my circumstances. My joy is a fruit of the Spirit. Even though life may not be so hot in the day-to-day, the Big Picture is still awesome.

How’s that for a train-of-thought post?

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